"A BREATH OF HEAVEN AT CHRISTMAS TIME"
By Elizabeth Foss
Once again it is that very busy time of year. Parents everywhere are
caught up in the whirlwind of homemaking and merrymaking. But not
this mom. This year, you'll find me just sitting and cuddling our
soft newborn baby, Patrick Gabriel, who was born Oct. 2.
Patrick is our third baby and one would think that I wouldn't be
amazed by how a baby slows me down. Housework which we previously
finished in under an hour takes the better part of the morning. I
don't dare make appointments before 10 in the morning and even then
it's tough to arrive on time. Life seems to be moving in the slow
motion peculiar to every postpartum.
This time, I'm not fighting it. I'm taking my time. I'm determined
not to speed things up. With my first infant, I was anxious for each
new milestone of development -- I hurried the baby days away. With the
second, I was eager for him to grow and be a playmate for the first.
With this baby, I'm embracing the time.
Those who know me will attest to the fact that I'm not naturally
patient and I like to move quickly. But for now, I'm grateful for the
excuse to sit for 20 minutes every two hours and nurse the baby. I
don't even miss the hustle and bustle of the season.
Of course, with Patrick's older brothers completely caught up in the
Christmas commotion, I am not totally oblivious to the chaos outside.
For some reason, though (hormones?), I'm able to meet their
exuberance with relative calm and to delight in their enthusiasm.
Having a newborn at Christmas time makes the infant Jesus seem very
real to my 2-year-old. Ant the humble sacrifices of Mary and Joseph
seem heroic to my husband and me.
What an awesome calling -- to parent the child of God. Isn't that what
we are all called to do? When they are infants, new and sweet, it is
so easy to remember that they are the handiwork of the Lord, gifts
from heaven. And as Charles Dickens once wrote, "It is not a slight
thing when they, who are so fresh from God, love us."
Surely, this will be the best Christmas ever. We have a bright,
inquisitive 6-year-old who grasps the meaning of the season nearly as
well as an adult but reflects it back through the eyes of a child. We
have a lively 2-year-old who is amazed at the sights and sounds and
activity but ever grateful for the chance to cuddle quietly with mom
and his new baby. And we have Patrick Gabriel, a brand new breath of
I'm glad to let the busyness of Christmas time whirl around me as I
gaze through the haze created by a new baby. (Some would call it
sleep deprivation, but that's not very poetic.) I'm very happy
snuggled in my flannels, sipping peppermint tea in the light of the
Christmas tree and drinking in the heady sweetness of a new baby.
If you happen to be cradling a baby in your arms as you read this
column, I'm glad you're with me. If you are expecting a baby, put
your feet up and join us; you certainly deserve the rest. And if your
babies have grown all too quickly, take a moment to reminisce.
Wherever you are in your parenting, I invite you to look through the
eyes of a child and share the peace of an Infant.
Foss is a freelance writer and managing editor of Welcome Home, a
magazine for mothers at home.
This article appeared in the December 8, 1994 issue of "The Arlington
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