Truth be told, as a Priest I would be torn in their situation. On one hand, one does not
want to deny the graces that come from the Sacrament of Baptism to your grandchild. But
on the other hand, Canon Law is specific in saying that there must be some "founded hope"
that a child who is being Baptized will be raised in the faith. What you describe about your
son and the child's mother is a common situation amongst younger (meaning under 40)
Catholics: They want the ceremonies and rituals, but none of the obligation or
responsibility. Why does she want the child baptized? She can't, on one hand, fear the
doctrine of unbaptized children going to Limbo (which is inaccurate and outdated anyway),
while at the same time not caring about the doctrine about sexual morality and
cohabitation for herself and your son. You can't think of getting the child baptized in the
same preventative way we think of getting children vaccinated against polio, measles,
mumps, etc. If you're going to ask for Baptism, there should be faith behind it. Otherwise
you're just looking for a party. Mind you, I'm not directing this at you personally; I'm
writing these as if I was speaking to the couple.
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