Same-Sex Marriage Pressures and Dangers
By Father John Flynn
ROME, 29 APRIL 2007 (ZENIT)
Giving full legal status to marriage
between persons of the same sex continues to be a hotly debated topic.
On Thursday in the United States the New Hampshire senate voted in favor
of a bill granting same-sex couples virtually all the legal rights
heterosexual spouses enjoy, reported the Washington Post the same day.
The bill now goes to the governor, John Lynch, who has already said he
will sign it.
The vote came on the heels of Governor Eliot Spitzer's recent
announcement that he will introduce a bill to legalize same-sex marriage
in the state of New York, the New York Times reported April 23.
In turn, this followed a vote last December by the New Jersey
legislature to recognize civil unions for same-sex couples. The vote
made New Jersey the third state, after Vermont and Connecticut, to
establish civil unions for homosexuals, reported the New York Times on
Dec. 15. So far Massachusetts is the only state to have introduced
The New Jersey vote came after the state's Supreme Court directed
authorities to grant same-sex couples the same financial benefits and
legal rights as married heterosexual couples.
Outside the United States, family and Church groups in Italy will hold a
public rally in Rome on May 12. The event, to be held on what has been
designated as Family Day, is part of a campaign to defend heterosexual
marriage in the face of proposals to give legal recognition to same-sex
Last year in Mexico, despite a strong Catholic presence in the country,
lawmakers in the capital city gave couples the possibility to register
civil unions, while not formally legalizing same-sex marriage. The move
by Mexico City's legislature gave homosexual partners inheritance rights
and other benefits, according to a report by the Associated Press on
Soon afterward, the northern Mexican state of Coahuila followed suit
granting similar legal status to homosexual partners, Reuters reported
Late last year in South Africa, the country's Parliament voted to
legalize same-sex marriage, making it the first African country to do
so, the BBC reported Nov. 14. The move followed a ruling by the South
African Constitutional Court in 2005, which declared that the government
had to legalize same-sex marriage. The ruling was based on a clause in
the country's constitution, which outlaws discrimination on the grounds
of sexual preference.
Prior to the vote Cardinal Wilfred Napier, archbishop of Durban,
submitted a statement on behalf of the Southern African Catholic
Bishops' Conference to a parliamentary committee explaining why the
Catholic Church was opposed to marriage for same-sex couples.
The text, dated Oct. 16, explained that the Church does not condemn
homosexual persons, nevertheless, homosexual acts are contrary to the
natural law and they close the sexual act to the gift of life.
Legalizing homosexual unions is, the cardinal continued, also contrary
to this same natural law. Moreover, such a move undermines the very
nature of marriage and the family. By weakening marriage the well-being
of society is also damaged, he warned.
Proponents of legalizing marriage for same-sex couples often dismiss
such arguments as the imposition of Church morality on secular society.
This is not true, explains a book published in March by David
Blankenhorn, president of the New York-based Institute for American
In his book, "The Future of Marriage," Blankenhorn explains that it is
mistaken to conceive of marriage as a merely private matter between two
people. Marriage significantly influences individual and social
"Marriage is the first and most important of society's institutions," he
argues. This is acknowledged even by secular thinkers. It was John
Locke, for example, who called marriage the "first society."
Therefore, contemporary efforts to redefine marriage as being
principally a private emotionally constituted relationship ignore a
large part of what its nature really is. Marriage is, in addition to a
personal relationship, a social institution
an institution with vital functions to carry out, not the least of which
is ensuring that children are raised with the assistance of both a
mother and a father.
Unfortunately, Blankenhorn observes, heterosexuals have been responsible
for weakening the connection between marriage, procreation and
child-rearing, due to the widespread practices of premarital sexual
relations, divorce and single-parent homes. The tendency in recent times
to conceive of marriage as being primarily about the private needs and
feelings of the spouses has made it a lot easier to argue that the
institution should be opened to same-sex couples.
The nature of parenthood
Redefining marriage to include same-sex couples would severely weaken
the idea that children need both a father and a mother. Here Blankenhorn
explains what happened with the 2005 law in Canada that legalized
same-sex marriage. The legislation removed the term "natural parent"
from Canadian law and replaced it with "legal parent."
This is an earth-shaking difference, he argues. Marriage as
traditionally seen unites the biological and social dimensions of being
a parent. The child is loved and raised by the two individuals whose
physical union made the child.
Same-sex marriage disavows the importance of that gift of life, and from
that point on a parent is merely whomever the state deems to be a
parent. A change that is manifestly contrary to the interests of
children. Proof abounds, Blankenhorn continues, that children's needs
are best looked after when they are raised in the context of marriage
between a man and a woman, who are their biological parents.
Another argument put forward by advocates of marriage for homosexuals is
based on the concept of human dignity. In the name of dignity, human
rights and equality, homosexual marriage proponents argue, they should
be free to marry to avoid unjust discrimination.
This is too narrow a focus, Blankenhorn replies. Marriage as a right is,
in fact, closely linked to marriage as an institution. The United
Nations' Universal Declaration of Human Rights, in fact, intrinsically
connects marriage to parenthood, and in turn, marriage to its role as a
fundamental institution in society.
Thus, marriage is linked to the family and to responsibilities within
the family and society. So marriage as a right is not some free-floating
concept, but one which is placed within the context of other realities
and responsibilities. Hence the right recognized in the Declaration of
the United Nations is the right to participate in the institution of
marriage, and not the right to turn any private adult relationship of
choice into marriage.
Accepting the proposal that adults have a right to marry any person they
may choose is not, therefore, merely extending a right to an additional
group of people, Blankenhorn argues. What such a change does change is
the very nature of what marriage means. Taken together with the need for
same-sex partners to have recourse to assisted reproduction techniques
in order to produce any children, it means accepting the idea that
individuals have the right to form the family they choose.
So what is being done here is turning into a primordial principle the
concept of human freedom. This is attractive to modern mentality, which
tells us we should be able to shape our lives just as we please. It
ignores, however, a key principle of human rights. This is, that a right
exists in community with other rights. A proposed right to form whatever
type of family desired is in conflict with the rights of children, for
In the end, Blankenhorn comments, the great challenge we face is not to
just defeat proposals for same-sex marriage, but to renew marriage and
make it stronger and better able to carry out its vital social
This is precisely an idea echoed by Benedict XVI during his recent trip
to the north of Italy. During his homily at the Mass on April 21 in
Vigevano, the Pope stated that the family is the institution that
supports society. Only be supporting the family can the Church and civil
society be renewed. A conclusion both social science and the Church can
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