Matrimony is a sacrament and
as such it is a sign to the world of the invisible God living in our midst
- the living God who bears fruit in the lives of two people.
|A sacrament is a visible sign of an invisible reality. Matrimony is a sacrament
and as such it is a sign to the world of the invisible God living in our
midst - the living God who bears fruit in the lives of two people. They
are a continual sign of His Power in the world. There is special grace and
power within every couple God has joined together. Everything they do singly
or together, is a living out of their sacrament. Simple things like washing
dishes, running a sweeper, driving to work, struggling to make a living,
budgeting a small salary to meet big expenses - yes, these and al I the
other facets of life together, have power hidden within them to make them
holy. Married life is the ground of holiness, love is the seed planted by
God. Life together with its agonies and joys, pain and sacrifices, frustrations
and tensions, moments of exultation and despair, all act as the rain and
sun, thunder and lightning on a young sprout.|
The faults and weaknesses of each one are compensated for by each
other's virtues. Each possesses what the other lacks. This results in a
loving dependence on each other for spiritual growth and transformation.
If a married couple can form a habit of looking at each other in a sacramental
way - seeing the beauty of God in each other's souls - seeking to enhance
that beauty by upbuilding each other- mutually growing in the image of Jesus
- then that Sacrament of Matrimony bears the stamp of the living God.
Temperaments that could create many problems
are looked upon as stepping stones to holiness - tools in their hands that
chip away selfishness, sensitivity, anger, jealousy and greed. When personal
growth in self-knowledge leads to the "putting on of Jesus," married
life fulfills the purpose for which it was created.
When growth in the image of Jesus is the goal of a young couple,
the faults and imperfections that soon begin to grind are taken in hand
and used to build and not destroy. If one partner is gentle and the other
hot-tempered it is obvious that each possesses what the other needs. For
example, one whose temper has a short fuse has before him a living example
of the gentleness of Jesus. If that gentleness is looked upon as a fruit
that is good to possess then each partner will aid the other in their mutual
ascent to God. Differences of temperament may make for incompatibility in
a divorce court, but before God those differences are tools that shape and
reshape each other's souls into the image of God.